The first way to recognize the need for change in your life, on any level, is to pay attention to your signals. Signals are an indication, sign or token indicating an action needs to be made known or communicated somehow. We receive and transmit signals to one another and to self multiple times throughout the day. The challenge comes in paying attention to these inner and outer indicators. Are we on the right track, or not? Signals can be subtle, like in a dream, a message in a song or a small shift that you notice recurring in your body or thoughts.
Some common signals that you may notice in your body are headaches, gastrointestinal discomfort, weight gain, neck or back pain, sleep disturbance. In relationships you might feel irritability, a lackluster social life (or one that is raging out of control!), difficulty communicating or being in positive relation to either family or work colleagues. Are you feeling productive or just crazy busy all the time? These common signals want your attention!
As a massage therapist and life coach, I am always curious as to why people choose not to pay attention to the messages they are receiving. Why don’t you pay attention, you might ask yourself (very good questions, by the way!!). I have found that denial, fear, lack of time and the stressors of life keep us out of touch with what we intuitively know we need to do to create change.
We don’t need to take on a 360 approach to all aspects of our lives. Consider what you are able to reasonably change; taking small steps that will lead to more satisfaction, more engagement in a lifestyle that you align with and ultimately living intentionally, day in and day out. As we pay more attention to the power of signals, we have a choice whether or not to listen to the messages. Here are some suggestions to shake off what no longer serves you, welcoming all that does.
1. Over a weeks time write down anything you notice, body, mind and spirit that makes you feel unhappy or uncomfortable. Pay attention to those things that recur regularly.
2. Be hones with yourself and ask why you haven’t done anything, to this point, to alter, change or redirect your energy for a positive outcome. Ask someone else, whom you trust, for their feedback as well.
3. Reflect on a larger life goal for yourself and ask how making a change in an area could support you, in any way, to attain that goal. (ie: Goal: To be in better relationship with family. Change: Reduce computer time or TV watching. Outcome: Relationships begin to be more enjoyable and fulfilling.)
4. Share your intentions with someone to support you in accountability.
5. Write things down!!! An incredibly powerful way to engage the mind, creating action and forward movement.
Take a Breath, Change a Thought, Engage in Action.
Marilyn Taylor, Licensed Massage Therapist, Certified Life Coach
Confident Directions Life Coaching